This is the first Sunday of June and I have committed
this year to being more intentional on how I spend my Sundays. Technically I know summer hasn’t officially begun, but with the start of June brings the start of the “summer break season” for most of us.
I know that it can be hard to make sure that you have enough time for yourself once summer break begins, but that’s why it’s more important than ever to me to intentionally set aside time to focus on me even if it’s just for a couple of hours on Sundays.
So here are my ideas for slowing down and savoring the sweet days of summer.
The first step is to decide when you can make time during the day for this plan to happen. You need to ask yourself if it’s easier to do this first thing in the morning before the rest of the family is awake? Or would afternoon work better because the kids are down for naps?
Maybe your significant other can take the kids out of the house for some fun in the afternoon? Or maybe that isn’t possible and you are doing this whole thing called life alone with your kids. There is no shame in putting a movie on for them so that you can have peace and quiet to yourself. I know sometimes moms can get criticized for giving their kids screen time, but YOU and ONLY you know what’s best for your family and yep, your family includes you so don’t be ashamed of doing what’s best for yourself sometimes. Your kids will be ok. I promise.
After you have determined when you want to implement your plan, the next step would be to figure out what you want to include in your self care time. Is reading important to you? Have you always dreamed of starting a blog? Do you need some time to work on your hobbies? Household Chores? (yes, cleaning does give some people a sense of peace and I have heard from others that they use that time while doing mundane tasks to think through a problem) I am going to pick 3 things I want to include during my self care time and do my best to incorporate them each week.
I would highly suggest having those three things appeal to the sense as much as you can. For example, if you pick reading as your activity, then perhaps you could pair that with your favorite candle lit nearby (sense of smell), and indulge a little and have a tiny piece of chocolate or some other treat for yourself during this time (sense of taste), but the one requirement to that is that whatever you chose, you can’t feel guilty about eating/drinking it. It has to be something that you would consider a “healthy to you” type of way to self care.
After you have narrowed down the self care items, it's time to take action and implement them! Now is the time to set a chain reaction in motion and set yourself up for a wonderful habit to take shape.
With that being said, don’t worry too much about making this a habit first. That will create lots of pressure for you and a missed Sunday of self care can lead to guilt that will be more detrimental to your well being.
Instead, just go into it with the mindset that you are going to do it as many Sunday’s as you can. If you miss one, no big deal because you will pick right back up again as soon as you can. We often create too much pressure on ourselves to get everything done right and at the right time. Sometimes even putting things off that will benefit us until the time is right. But the reality is that the time may never be JUST RIGHT. So as cliche as it sounds, just seize the day and do what will make your soul sing!
Set the intention to take care of yourself and you will reap tremendous benefits